Friend setup · Step 1 of 2

Who are you reflecting on?

A short, guided setup before the reflection questions begin.

A note on privacy

Your answers are for reflection. Avoid entering sensitive identifying details you would not want stored. You may use initials or nicknames.

Friend's name or nickname

What kind of relationship is this?

Optional — helps us interpret your reflection in context.

How long have you known this person?

About how many meaningful one-on-one hours do you spend with this person in a typical week?

How often do you currently have meaningful one-on-one interaction?

How often do you currently see each other in person?

What best describes your proximity?

Have both of you clearly expressed or repeatedly demonstrated a mutual commitment to grow, remain present, and be there for each other over time?

Is there a mutual sense that this friendship is not easily disposable when conflict, inconvenience, distance, or life change happens?

What zone do you currently believe this friendship is in?

Trust your instinct — short descriptors are just to orient you.

What zone do you wish this friendship could become?

Used only to show the gap between current reality and what you hope for. It does not affect your result.

Before you begin

Answer based on the current reality of this friendship, not nostalgia, potential, history, emotional attachment, or how much you wish the friendship were closer.

For the most accurate result, answer based on real examples from the friendship, not only hope, history, or assumption.